Defining Success

Success: How To Get It, What to Do With It | Progression By Design

In the fast paced world of our present day life, it can be hard to take time to reflect on and recognize our successes. But with that being said, what defines success? I am always working to accomplish a goal, whether it may be getting everything finished on my to do list, or growing my blog readership by a certain number. These goals are easily identifiable and measurable. I either finish the list or I don’t. I either grow by the desired number, or I don’t. But how do you measure less tangible goals? When can I, as a blogger for example, say that I have “succeeded”?

While yes, I am well aware that no one is going to tap me on the shoulder one day, hand me a plaque, and say “congrats Marie you are officially a successful blogger,” I am curious if at some point I will just KNOW. As children, we are taught to measure our success through rewards, praise, and other external recognition. So what happens as adults? We as individuals become responsible for measuring our own success.

Everything is Relative

Because not everything is outright measurable, I really try to remind myself to remember that everything is relative. I am successful as a blogger and have come so far from when I first created Progression By Design. The comparison game is to easy to participate in.  Why don’t I have as many social media followers as her? Why don’t I get as many brand opportunities as she does? Stop comparing! It doesn’t matter. I have learned, and am constantly reminding myself, that comparison wastes time. That wasted energy could be used to make my blog better and grow my own readership.

Take a moment and reflect on what you are successful in.

I’m Successful, Now What?

Congratulations, you just awarded yourself that plaque that I mentioned above. Now, take your current level of realized personal success and keep pushing. Push yourself to be even better tomorrow, next month, and next year. Make a list of short term and long term goals and start kicking some ass. Reminding myself of the things that I have succeeded in really helps to ground me and give me that extra drive that I need to continue improving.

What are some ways that you measure your success? 

XOXO.

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31 Comments

  • Reply Kaitlin May 26, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    It is oh so easy to play the “why don’t I” game! I’m just starting out and sometimes it seems like I will never get to where I want to be. I try to measure things in baby steps. As you say, everything is relative. Think of every little accomplishment. As long as you continue to strive to move forward you are succeeding in my book. I take it day by day. I never try to see all I wish to accomplish in a year or so, it’s too overwhelming!
    Xx

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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:31 pm

      I agree that baby steps are totally necessary. I would have a mental breakdown if I tried to think too far into the future. I am definitely bad about that. I tend to get overwhelmed quickly so I always have to make an active effort to take things day by day in bite sized chunks. However, I do try to plan for the future. The plan makes it less scary!

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Annie May 26, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    Totally needed to hear this right now!! I feel like I always downplay my success because I never feel like it is “truly” success. The comparison curse is definitely a bad one and I am still working to fight it. Thanks so much for a great post! 🙂

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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:33 pm

      I know what you mean. Whenever my friends ask about my blog and my traffic and I tell them they’re like WHOA. That’s so many people. And i’m usually like no…… Blah blah blah has THIS many visitors…. So dumb. I really have been trying to work on not talking down on my successes as a blogger.

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Jordyn May 26, 2015 at 1:52 pm

    I definitely think you have made an interesting observation. It becomes a lot more difficult to measure success as an adult especially with a hobby like blogging. You’re right-it’s all relative. I don’t know if I will ever feel “successful” as a blogger I’m the traditional sense but I do fulfilled by it creatively which represents another sort of success for me (:
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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:35 pm

      I think that that is awesome that you get that fulfillment from blogging! I completely agree. I love writing posts like this one and hearing what my readers have to say about the topic. It is so much fun and gives me so much joy. Letting something like tangible success get in the way of that would just be a shame!

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Ashley Mason May 26, 2015 at 2:28 pm

    I LOVE this post. I can admit that I feel extremely unsuccessful when I look at the blogs and success of Carly Heitlinger, Mackenzie Horan, and Hallie Wilson. But you’re so right when you say that success is relative! Compared to what my blog was like when I first started, I would say I’m pretty success now. This post is a great reminder!

    XO
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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:38 pm

      I’m glad that this post rang true for you as well. It is so easy to compare myself to the “big bloggers” but they feel the same way, they’re just in a bigger pool. I’m sure that they compare themselves to each other just like we compare ourselves to them!

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Camille May 26, 2015 at 3:08 pm

    Great post, really inspirational. Thank you for sharing!

    Camille xo

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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:38 pm

      I’m glad that I could provide a little Tuesday inspiration! Thanks for reading 🙂

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Jenny May 26, 2015 at 4:18 pm

    Great post!
    People compare their success to others too often and it definitely is counter productive.
    You just gotta keep on pushing and doing the best you can do and not worry about what someone else is doing.

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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:46 pm

      I completely agree with that! I cringe when I think about how much time that have wasted measuring my success in comparison to another person. I have really been making an effort as of late to put my blinders on if you will and just focus on my own growth.

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Lauren Ashley May 26, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    Love this! I especially love the first one. It’s so easy to compare ourselves to others but we have to remember that we’re completely different and successful in our own way!

    Thanks so much for sharing.
    xoxo
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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:49 pm

      Unique is the way to go. I try and remind myself that that is how all of those big bloggers got there. Enough people liked what they had to say or what they were wearing etc. to read their blog regularly! If I have even 20 people a month that care what I have to say, that alone is a huge compliment!

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Rach Martin May 26, 2015 at 6:35 pm

    Love this post! So so so relatable!

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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:51 pm

      I’m glad that I could talk about something that is relatable to other bloggers/women! I love hearing everyone’s feedback on it and I am so glad that you felt like you could identify with it!

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Savannah May 26, 2015 at 7:30 pm

    Great post! Sometimes its easy to get caught up in other bloggers or another person’s success. It feels great to reflect every once in a while about my own success.

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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:52 pm

      I think that it is extremely important to do that! It kind of feels like rebooting the system in a way and getting a clear, grounded head on the matter at hand.

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Kelly May 26, 2015 at 8:27 pm

    I think that when I have the right motivations I don’t worry about “success” so much as I do “satisfaction”! And a little gratitude never hurts my attitude when it comes to playing the comparison game!

    Kelly
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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:56 pm

      I like that! Being able to find satisfaction in the little goals completed gives me a much broader sense of overall “success.” Very good point!

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Seersucker Sass May 26, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    To measure success, I set little goals for myself and my blog! I really enjoyed this post 🙂

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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:53 pm

      I seriously don’t know what I would do without my to do lists and goal sheets! It is so helpful for me to visually see the steps that I need to take to improve and to able to reflect on what I have been successful in the past at.

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Annaliese May 26, 2015 at 9:59 pm

    GREAT post!! I needed to read this tonight!! <3

    xoxo A
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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:48 pm

      I’m glad that I could be of assistance! I was feeling inspired today and I am glad that it could inspire others as well! <3

      XOXO
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  • Reply Caroline @ The Caro Diaries May 26, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    I really like this post. It’s so true: how do we define success, and when is it enough? I always feel like I’ll never be successful enough, but this was a great reminder that it’s relative!
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    • Reply Marie Huang May 26, 2015 at 11:54 pm

      That was the idea that sparked this entire post. I felt like I was never going to feel like the job was completed and that I was successful. I don’t think that anyone EVER feels that way, and knowing/realizing that has been really comforting to me!

      XOXO
      Marie
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  • Reply Marietta DeGrant May 27, 2015 at 1:56 am

    Your post is inspirational. Are you a motivational speaker? You have to be one
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    • Reply Marie Huang May 27, 2015 at 2:48 pm

      You are so sweet! I’m not but I must say that I get that motivational speaker esque gene from my dad! He can inspire just about anyone to get off of their ass and do something! He is so talented at it. I’m glad that it has rubbed off a bit on me 🙂

      XOXO
      Marie

  • Reply Morgan May 27, 2015 at 7:37 am

    Thanks for sharing this! I struggle with comparison many a day, but you are so right that our successes are relative and can only be measured by us. I say, “Celebrate the small victories!” to myself a lot to keep me motivated with blogging.

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  • Reply Danielle May 27, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this post. Thanks for sharing! Like SEERSUCKER SASS said, I create goals tangible goals for myself and if I don’t quite meet them I make adjustments and keep trying. I feel that it’s important never to give up and to always believe in yourself and your abilities.

  • Reply Brittany May 27, 2015 at 8:12 pm

    I needed this post. It was just so positive. I feel like nothing tears us down more (especially as bloggers) than comparing ourselves to others. I find myself comparing myself to fashion bloggers, I’m a lifestyle blogger, they aren’t even comparable. It is really important for everyone to know that success is internal and only you determine when you’re truly successful. Thanks for such a great post! 🙂

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