Recently a relationship in my life ended that left me in pieces. I was distraught and didn’t know where to go from there. I lost sight of the road and the most important relationship of all, the one that I have with myself. I get so caught up in pleasing others and nurturing the other relationships in my life, that I forget to focus on myself and my own needs. This is an ongoing struggle that I have had for many years, which is why it is something that I wanted to talk about.
I have never liked being alone, both physically and emotionally. I feel the need to be in a relationship at all times, and I am the most comfortable when I am physically with friends. I am aware that this is something that I need to work on, and after the recent conclusion of my last relationship, I have been forced to face this issue head on. One night when I was at one of my lowest points, I sat down and started writing. An hour later, I ended up with a letter that I wrote to myself. Whether you want to partake in this exercise or not (although I highly recommend it), I want you, the person reading this, to take a moment to remind yourself that you love you. Simple as that. Don’t get too busy with life’s up and downs and bullshit to do lists to focus on your primary relationship that you have with yourself.
When I look back on the lowest points and the roughest times in my life, they all have one common factor: I got through them. No one else did that for me, that was something that I did for myself. That realization re-lit the love spark if you will. There are many in your life that are there to support and love you, but you ultimately walk this life alone. Do it with your best friend. (you <3 )
Next time you lose focus, read that letter.